A lot of people think being in a lesbian relationship is different from a heterosexual one, but the big things are really similar: intimacy and insecurities, support and friction.
Avoid heavy and personal topics on your first date. Discussing past relationships, for instance, sends HUGE red flags about a lack of judgement and boundaries.
1. I’m attracted to women.
If you’ve only ever been attracted to men and are now finding yourself attracted to women, it could be a sign that your sexuality is changing. However, it may also be a sign that you’re in a relationship that isn’t making you happy anymore.
It can be really hard to navigate feelings for members of the same sex when you’re already in a relationship, but it’s important to make sure that your new feelings don’t jeopardize your current relationship. If you’re feeling this way, it might be a good idea to talk to your partner about it, but only once things have calmed down in the relationship.
For a fun first lesbian date, try going flower or fruit picking together! You can also go hiking or explore a local museum. You can even go to a park and watch the sunset or sunrise – just be sure to bring a blanket and some snacks! It’s always nice to have an activity to fall back on if your conversation isn’t flowing.
2. I’m attracted to girls.
A lot of people can find themselves attracted to girls, but it can be hard to figure out if the feeling is sexual or platonic. It’s always best to communicate openly with your date about how you feel and where you want things to go.
For your first date, avoid heavy or personal topics like politics and religion. These can send red flags that you don’t have good boundaries or judgement. Instead, talk about common interests like work or hobbies to get to know each other better.
Another great option is going on an art-themed walking tour of your city. This is a great way to bond over shared interests and have something to talk about if conversation lags.
3. I’m attracted to girls who are gay.
All girls get crushes on other girls at times. That’s totally normal, and it can be a great way to experiment with your sexuality. But if you start to find yourself crushing on girls who are stereotypically lesbian, it’s time to stop playing with fire.
If you’re attracted to women but also feel some days that you are more interested in men, then you may be bisexual. Some people say they knew they were lesbian or gay before they even reached puberty. But your sexual orientation is more like a scale with gay on one end and straight on the other, so it’s not unusual for your feelings to shift throughout life.
On your first date, try not to discuss heavy topics like politics or religion. This can send the red flag that you have poor boundaries and judgement. Instead, try a fun activity with her, such as an art walking tour! It’s a great way to explore your city and talk about what interests you both.
4. I’m attracted to girls who are lesbians.
Most women have felt sexual feelings towards another woman at some point in their lives. It might have been a very fleeting moment, or it could have been a more lasting feeling. But that doesn’t mean that they are lesbians. It just means that they might be curious about women’s bodies and what it feels like to have a female partner.
Girls who are attracted to other girls are often referred to as lesbians. However, many women who have lesbian attractions still consider themselves to be heterosexuals and’straight’. This is completely normal, as it can be very difficult to work out whether you are lesbian or not.
If you are dating a lesbian and would like to try out some different activities on your dates, why not look up a map of your local city and plan a walk around a couple of the museums? Or maybe head to a park and see the street art together?