If you’re in a sexual relationship, it’s important to know your partner’s kink preferences. This includes knowing whether your partner is a switch, a hard top or a blissful bottom.
In general, switches enjoy both giving and receiving pleasure in sex or kink. They may lean one way or the other, but they’re happy to play either role.
Switches
While topping and bottoming are often viewed as fixed categories, they actually exist on a spectrum. Some people enjoy both roles equally, while others prefer one over the other. These folks are referred to as switches. Switches like to be “done to” and do “doing to” others, and they generally want to experience both roles at the same time.
Some specific subcategories of tops and bottoms are found within the switch community, including “stone tops” and “touch me nots.” Stone tops are firm about their boundaries for touching during sex. They may not like to receive penetration or oral sex. Touch me nots are similarly vocal and may tease their partners in a playful way.
Switches are compatible with anyone, although they may have their best experiences with someone who complements their switching tendencies. For example, a switch who enjoys topping will probably do well with someone who also enjoys it. Likewise, a switch who enjoys bottoming will likely do best with someone who also likes that role.
Hard bottoms
Most people don’t fall neatly into the categories of top and bottom, but gradually learn where they fit on the spectrum through experimenting with partners, porn, and toys. Whether you’re more feminine or masculine, whether you’re a hard bottom or soft bottom, it’s important to remember that kink is a form of defiance against gender roles and expectations.
There is a stereotype that bottoms are more feminine and less confident, but that’s just a myth. There are diesel dykes who are hard bottoms and high femmes who are soft tops, as well as stud pillow princesses on both ends of the spectrum. The key is to find what gets you aroused and to be happy doing it. That’s the real power of kink! So, what are you waiting for?
Blissful bottoms
Whether they’re a bottom, top, or switchee, most people gradually learn where on the power spectrum they fall from experimenting with partners, porn, toys, and other things that get them aroused. Some bottoms, also called ‘pillow princesses’, are happy to receive from their partners occasionally, while others prefer to be on the receiving end all the time – these are known as hard bottoms.
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Power bottoms
A Power bottom is someone who wants to take charge of a sexual interaction. They want to dominate, be bossy, and are enthusiastic about riding a top’s dick. Power bottoms can be a bit more dominant than other types of bottoms, but it’s important to note that there is a lot of variation in the ways people choose to bottom.
Some people like to be full bottoms or stone bottoms, while others prefer to switch it up and be both a top and a bottom. There is no right or wrong way to bottom, and most people learn what they like through experimenting with different partners, porn, and toys.
Many gays believe that power bottoms exude “top energy.” They are confident, vocal, and are often able to ride a top’s dick with ease. These traits make them perfect for a kink-friendly relationship. Some of them also say that they love to be teased, as well as being sucked and fucked.